If you’ve ever struggled with low desire, you’re not alone. It’s a common experience, and the world is filled with advice on how to “fix” it. But what if we’re asking the wrong question? Instead of focusing on how to increase desire, consider this: how can you make the experience itself more pleasurable? This year, let’s shift our mindset and make pleasure the focal point of our intimate lives.

Start the new year by transforming your sex life! As you reflect on your goals and aspirations for the year ahead, don’t forget to include your sexual wellness in the mix. Setting sex-positive intentions can enhance pleasure, connection, and intimacy with yourself and your partner. In this guide, we explore how to differentiate between goals and intentions in the bedroom and why the latter may be the key to unlocking a more satisfying sex life in 2025.

Discover how shifting from goal-oriented pressure to intentional exploration can help you embrace more joy, curiosity, and sensuality without the fear of failure. Whether you're dealing with performance anxiety, want to improve connection, or simply want to explore new experiences, setting sexual intentions gives you the freedom to enjoy the journey.

When we are disconnected from our sexuality as our own, by us and for us, our sensuality, our pleasure, is then also not our own. Our sexuality often feels like it is not for us, but existent for the enjoyment and service of others, validated as real and functioning only through the engagement of someone else.

Pleasure mapping is a somatic exercise which helps people gain more knowledge and information about their body, as well as practice embodied awareness (i.e. being present to sensations that arise).