When we are disconnected from our sexuality as our own, by us and for us, our sensuality, our pleasure, is then also not our own. Our sexuality often feels like it is not for us, but existent for the enjoyment and service of others, validated as real and functioning only through the engagement of someone else.

Human’s eroticism and attraction is mysterious. There are often elements of contradiction, challenge, and ambivalence that must be overcome in order to create intense eroticism.